Happy New Year!
I’m sure most of you have made New Year’s resolutions by now.
It may be to go back to the gym, watch less tv, get organized, start menu planning or pay off those lingering credit card bills.
But what about your marriage?
Do you make marriage resolutions? This is something that I admit, I often overlook.
This month Lori, Melissa and I are here to challenge you to make your Marriage Resolutions and put it in writing!
Sit down with your spouse, grab a glass of wine or a cup of coffee, pen and paper and work together to come up with a list of marriage goals this year.
It may be things you’ll work on as a couple or individually.
Then write a blog post and link up!
Tina’s Marriage Resolutions:
#1 Stop being defensive. I have a tendency to be really defensive when my hubby and I have a disagreement and I really need to work on this.
#2 Make a point to have date night at least once a month even if it consists of making a nice dinner AFTER the kids go to bed.
#3 Watch the History Channel or action packed movies with my hubby and try NOT to look bored and keep all complaints to myself.
#4 Not be so quick to clean up so that my hubby can’t find his shoes, keys or paycheck {yes, I’ve even thrown that out by accident, oops!}.
#5 Tell my hubby every day that I love and give him one compliment a day {to help boost his ego}.
#6 When I want him to do something around the house, I will ask him nicely instead of nagging him every day until he finally gets annoyed and does it.
#7 I will do unexpected little surprises for him like make his favorite meal, slip a hand written note in his car, let him sleep in and pick up his favorite beer {the perfect way to a man’s heart}.
#8 Plan a one night getaway this year.
#9 Let him know I really appreciate what he does for us, by saying thank-you more often.
Lori’s Marriage Resolutions:
#1 Start attending his cycling races. I know, I know, how could I have not attended all along? It still haunts me.
#2 Share DVR space. This is a hard one for me. Aside from blogging, TV is my thang!
#3 Change my tone. Apparently I have a sucky tone and don’t watch the way I say things. I honestly don’t know what he’s talking about but I’ll try.
#4 Work on the VPL (visible panty line). I really don’t know why this bothers my husband so much, especially because he’s not Clinton Kelly but it does. No more VPL baby; you got it.
#5 Turn off my computer at least once a month. I constantly have computer issues because, according to my husband, I never shut down and allow the updates to install. For some reason this bothers him so I’ll make an effort.
#6 Show him how much I love him in more creative and unexpected ways. My husband is a great man and we are so blessed to have him.
#7 Cook more. My husband loves home cooking and deserves home cooking considering how hard he works.
Melissa’s Marriage Resolutions:
Honestly I have so many things I’d like to do differently in my marriage as we embark on our 13th year of “mostly” wedded bliss.
#1 FINALLY give up trying to change certain things about my husband; if I haven’t been able to change these things about him after 13 years together– I don’t want to waste ANYMORE energy spending the next 13 years attempting to win arguments in which I’m basically fighting with myself. I’ve come to realize that there are simply quirks my husband possesses that I FINALLY need to accept.
#2 When I look at my husband to remember everything that made me fall in love with him in the first place. To spend less energy focusing on the mistakes of our past- and to remeber that the present is actually that a gift and a chance every day to bask in one another’s love even at those moments when I don’t feel much like basking in anything.
#3 Letting go of the small stuff. Of course the word small is quite subjective and it could mean different things to many people. I think of small as something that, if it happens- when I see myself 25 years from today- will it still hold any weight, impact the life I’ve created and the marriage I’m still in? If the answer is a resounding no- then I am just going to LET IT GO.
Bloggers: We have a linky open above for you to share your posts. If you could do us a favor by linking back to this marriage challenge in your post and tweet your post with the #projectmarriage hashtag it would really help us spread the word! Thanks so much!
Non-Bloggers: We most definitely want to hear from you too! Simply share your Marriage Resolutions on our Fan Page!
Even if you wrote a post, we would love you to also link it up to our Project Marriage’s Facebook page! Your support of your fellow Project Marriage participants is so totally awesome and we love you for that! Plus it keeps everyone inspired to make Marriage Resolutions and try to stick with them!
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